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Dear Friends,
Happy New Year! We have all gone through different size life transitions, personal challenges and much spiritual growth. I personally thank you! As each of us does our personal growth work we are raising our vibration another octave higher and with this increase we are assisting with the increase of raising the earth's vibration. Thank you for all you have endured and for staying aligned to love, trust and faith!
I hope you enjoy this month's article. The intention is for you to celebrate the emotional wealth you created and be proud of yourself! In many cases, it was not given to you, you had to dig deep!
I'm humbly grateful my Smile Across Your Heart radio show is now a "FEATURED" SHOW. You can listen FOR FREE to the thirty minute recent show by clicking on this link:
The Difference Between Self-love and Arrogance!
January 6, Thursday, 12 noon is the next Smile Across Your Heart radio show, "Creating Your Bucket Full of Love!"
Something to be Proud of – Your Emotional Wealth
If you didn’t grow up with parents giving you regular and stable unconditional love, encouraging your spirits with verbal supporting positive accolades, positive emotional support and regular physical affection, you fought for every ounce of self –love. You learned how to support yourself through disappointments, through insecurities and even childhood traumas. You mustered every ounce of encouragement to spark your drive and have the courage to believe in yourself and your capabilities. With a parent filled with their own fears, doubting your decisions and choices, you had to fight harder and dig deeper to stay true to your inner core and hold a light to your dreams!
For many years you wanted your mom or dads to think you were successful, you learned success to you may be different than their definition. Each time you shared a positive story and didn’t receive the supportive response you so desperately wanted, you learned that this parent of yours was showing you that you didn’t need his/her approval, you needed to dip even deeper and appreciate yourself and stop giving your power away. You understood this parent was acting like a mirror reflecting your insecurity back to you. You learned to say to yourself, “Stop “needing” this validation from him/her because you are not going to get it in the way you want it.” You told yourself, “I must validate myself!” You learned to appreciate their way of showing you love. Wow, the inner strength kept on building. They really knew how to challenge your emotional and mental character!
Your parents may have been more traditional, had specific expectations for you and didn’t understand your out of the box philosophies but you had the courage and fortitude to do things your way. You learned that all human beings including yourself are only capable of giving what you have inside to give. You love your parents very much and appreciate everything they have given, taught, provided and shared including their wonderful qualities that you did inherit that helped mold your character!
You learned to stop wishing your parents were different than they were because you understood that you chose your parents for your divine learning lessons. And, you understood every time you wished they were different it was like you were saying that you weren’t good enough. You knew you had to stop wishing things were different and accept them exactly like they had been. You discovered once you accepted everyone and everything without wanting or wishing they were different, you found your everlasting inner peace.
Being angry at them didn’t serve any good. It only held you inside a prism of anger. And, you knew you were missing the bigger picture—that everything WAS and always had been in divine order. As a child you may not have always understood and may have questioned, “How did I end up here in this family?” You now know that as a divine spirit before coming to earth, you carefully chose your families for your life learning lessons. You knew precisely which aspects you wanted to learn more about within yourself, and the family you chose would provide that opportunity.
Your parents, at times, had the COURAGE to be mean, selfish, and emotionally unavailable, controlling, to be negative and non-supportive. This forced you to probe as deep as one can go---to grow in your inner strength, self-love, your courage, your decisive focus, and your ability to learn how to be your own best friend! They gifted you emotional and mental WEALTH. You know you can count on yourself! And, you kept your heart open to support, share, give and love others. You understand your parents did the best they could, coming from a different era, a consciousness that was saturated in fear and possibly different environments. You learned to have compassion and understanding for them and appreciate their many wonderful qualities! You bless them and thank them for a job well done!
This emotional wealth is worth millions in prosperity! You should be very proud of yourself!!! You were not handed self-love, encouragement, unconditional love, indomitable perseverance, and inner strength on a silver platter-- YOU EARNED IT EVERY STEP OF THE WAY. You did the hard work and came out strong! Congratulations!!! You are my hero! Look how much you can love!
If I can help you in a personal life challenge, I offer my telephone life coaching services to you. Coaching sessions are done over the telephone. Read more about life coaching, click here: Life Coaching.
Laurie Martin
Meditation:
Breathe in Love
Close your eyes. Sit and belly breathe for a few minutes. Place your hands on your heart and take several relaxing breaths.
Visualize a beautiful white and gold light up in the sky. Imagine that this is the frequency of God, creator source, unconditional love, goodness, and beauty. See this light all around you and inside of you. Connect this gold light to every part of you. Breathe it in for several minutes. Feel the love! For more of these visualizations, I offer you my book Smile Across Your Heart: The Process of Building Self-love in my Smile Shop. See the link in the upper right hand corner of this newsletter.
- Affirmations:
- "I'm so grateful to my parents for everything!"
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I am committed to keeping my heart open, staying positive and taking action toward my dreams.
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The universe loves and needs me now and always!
- Gratitude:
- Dear God,
"I love you so much. Thank you for all of your divine love and support.
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I am grateful for the ability to see beauty in everyone and everything.
- I love seeing others light up in happiness, it brings me so much joy. I love spreading joy to others!"
- Forgiveness:
- Say, "I'm so grateful I'm done blaming others for my life. I know everyone including myself does the best they can. I am at peace!"
Prayer:
Dear God,
"Please help me remove my limited beliefs & critical thinking and raise my consciousness to expand my image and vision of myself." Thank you!
Joy Exercise:
What are your top spiritual, romantic, personal, career and altruistic goals?
Purchase a poster board, cut images out of magazines that represent your heart's interests and goals. Have fun pasting the images on your poster board. Place this poster board in your special place.
Love, encouragement and support is true spiritual wealth! It changes lives! Keep changing lives!
Disclaimer: Affirmations, setting intentions, and visualization techniques have shown to be helpful; it should never be a substitute for medical treatment, for counseling, or needed medication.
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See Also:
Visit my Smile Shop.
Listen LIVE to my Smile Across Your Heart radio show!
My LATEST article in the Naples Daily Newspaper- Self-love or Arrogance?
Laurie A. Martin
Author, Professional Speaker, Radio Host, Certified Life Coach, Advice Columnist for the "Heart to Heart" column in the Naples Daily News, advice column called "Ask Laurie" in Pulse Magazine and the "Give It To ME Straight" column in Pulse University.
Smile Across Your Heart.com
Life Coaching:
"Laurie, is a very detailed professional with great knowledge of life and yoga. She has helped me many times with yoga and with life experiences. Laurie, was always there for me and I love her for that! I will never forget. She is a wonderful person and great coach. She will always be there for you also." June 20, 2010, Frank
"Laurie Martin is one of the most amazing and inspiring woman who ever touched my soul. She helped me through one of the most difficult times in my life. Not only did she guide me to find the strength and courage to fight, and to overcome my battle, but consistently lifted my spirits and gave me hope. To Laurie, I will forever be grateful."
Jane Doyle
Coaching Client
"Laurie Martin is an amazing and inspiring woman who is always willing to share her positive outlook. While we've done some great work together, I appreciate the way she encourages me to handle the inevitable ups and downs of life."July 6, 2010, Cynthia
I welcome your Life Coaching questions! Selected one's will be answered in my advice columns or on the radio. For your privacy, your name will be changed. Please email me your questions to: LaurieM@SmileAcrossYourHeart.com. Don't be shy!
Upcoming Workshops:
Speaking Appearances
- January 7, Ritz Carlton, Be Your Vibrant Potential. Private booking.
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January 31, Hodges University, Staying Aligned to Your Integrity and Morals. Private booking.
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A recent message from a happy client:
April, 2010
"You are SOOO effective when it comes to lifting people's spirits with profound truths aboout self-love. I got so much from your book and I'm eternally grateful. I struggled almost my entire life with extreme self-doubt and it surely is a crippler....but I'm truly better now, thanks to people like you. What separates you from others that offer help is you give us TOOLS that we can utilize to help us in our quest for a more fulfilling life and your focal point is all about SELF-LOVE which is at the heart of most if not all issues & problems. God bless you Laurie for all that you do....couldn't thank you more!"Nancy Morales
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